Our Attitude To Dating

<p><img style="clear:both; float:left; padding:10px 10px 10px 0px;border:0px; max-width: 400px;" src="http://img-android.lisisoft.com/img/5/3/4035-2-com.appooka.onlinedatingapp.aouvwebppxkdzpdd.jpg"; alt="online dating tips for you">Could you use a quick and easy mantra for dating success to help you find that committed relationship? As women, relationships are important to us and we often want to get dating out of the way as quickly as we can and get to the good bit i.e. the committed relationship. We look forward to sharing that loving connection with our special man and that happy-ever-after romance. Unfortunately, often, our special man may feel happier dating than in the committed relationship that we so desire. Our attitude to dating, of wanting to rush through it and land our man, is often self-defeating however. It is usually the cause of our continued failure in our dating and early relationships. When we try to skip dating and get straight to the relationship, a man senses that something is not quite right. In such an important decision in our lives, why would we not take our time and check out who we are dating first.</p><br/><div style="clear:both;"></div><p>We obviously don't place much value on ourselves if we settle for the first man who comes along and pays us some attention. Often, it appears that it is the relationship that we want and any old guy will do to fill the gap in our lives. He will sense this if we jump straight into the relationship without getting to know him first. A man will feel our desperation and will be quite turned off by this. He will feel pressurised by our premature expectations and his initial reaction will be to escape. When he pulls away to escape our neediness, if we now cling on at any cost to get him back, we will probably lose him. Our haste to get past the dating stage will lose us our man once more. How can we stop this happening to avoid putting off the men we date in future?</p><br/><p>Well, we need to learn some patience, not expect too much too soon and get to know him before we allow ourselves to become addicted to him. I suggest the use of this "mantra" - to be repeated as often as possible for at least the first 3 - 4 months of dating. If you can stick to these principles, you can find dating success and get to that committed relationship. He will have more respect for you because you did not throw yourself into a relationship with him but sat back, and evaluated whether he was a suitable partner for you. He will value you more because he will have to work harder to get you. Lets face it, not many people value anything that is handed to them on a plate. He will believe that you value yourself because you did not just jump into a committed relationship with him and you were prepared to lose him if he didn't live up to your standards.</p><br/><p>For this reason also he will not even think of taking you for granted early on as he knows he will lose you. Whatever men say, a guy wants a woman in his life who will put herself first in many areas. This takes the pressure off him to make her happy and keep her entertained. It also makes her harder to catch which is very exciting for a man, and she seems a more interesting person. So, if you are looking for dating success, use this mantra regularly and make sure you stick to it until you are sure that he has fallen in love with you. Then you can relax into your committed relationship because you will both know that you are right for each other. And, because you let the wrong ones go early, you can be very optimistic that this relationship is going to be fabulous. About The Author You can find dating success and break through to that committed relationship that you desire. Leave the uncertainty behind. There is a certain type of woman that a man finds irresistible and he can't wait to commit to her.</p>